Like the month of my birth, Christmas, and new year, the moth of August is also very significant to me. It is significant not only because it is the height of the summer, but also because it is the moth when I stopped smoking. I smoked my last cigarette – at least the last so far and hoping to be the last – on the 4th of August 2017.
I have already given-up the possibility to be a non-smoker and accepted that I smoking will be a part of my like, that I will smoke all my life. And yet here I am, after smoking my last cigarette for almost a year now, an ex-smoker blogging about being an ex-smoker or at least being able not to smoke.
Smoking is one of the many things that we achieve tremendous things by precisely not doing. I can be a non-smoker by not lighting a cigarette and smoke it. But, as many smokers and smokers who are struggling to be ex-smokers would perfectly know, not smoking is not as easy as it sounds.
In my previous blog [4th of August 2017: Smoked The Last Cigarette… So far…] I mentioned that my road to stop smoking has been a bumpy one. My previous attempts to stop smoking failed and I am hoping that this third time around will be different. In all those attempts – including this third time around – Allen Carr’s ‘Easy Way to Stop Smoking’ has been very useful.
Of course, one could argue that if Allan Carr’s Easy Way is so effective and success, why did my previous attempts have failed in the first place? My response is of course is that success and effectiveness are not without failures. More often than not, at least in my own experience, failures are prerequisite to become eventually successful. After all, Allan Carr’s method relies heavily in changing how we view smoking and changing our minds does not occur overnight.
Indeed, Allan Carr’s method is very effective because it addresses not the object of addiction, but the addiction itself. It challenges the ways in which we think of smoking and how we relate to it. In the past, we have been indoctrinated by the media to see smoking as a friend who helps us get through our lives. But the truth of the matter is, our lives are more complete before we become addicted to cigarettes. And of course, I have failed before because it takes time to change one’s ideas, beliefs, and attitude towards what we believe to be our friend. Jerusalem is not built overnight.